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Is Moving for Love a Good Idea? Some Questions Can Give You the Answer

Posted in Moving Tips & Tricks on December 14, 2020

Love, commitment, and trust are the key ingredients to successful relationships. The big question is, how far are you willing to go for your relationship? Is moving for love a risky step or a normal thing to do for your significant other? Before making this decision, you should ask yourself the right questions, and then the answers provided will give you some clarity in what to do. Here are some of the questions that people with the same experience had.

Should You Relocate for a Relationship?

Is it worth moving for love? Well, that depends on many factors and even more questions. Are you in a long-lasting relationship, or you just started a new romance? Either way, ask yourself, “Am I ready to put this relationship to another level?” If you are in a long relationship and think about this, but you waited for the right timing, maybe relocating for love is the right kick that your relationship needs. On the other hand, if you are in a “honeymoon phase,” maybe this is not the right time to make this decision.

Perhaps you should consider long-distance relationships first – this way, if everything ends, you will get to continue your life as usual. For a person that thinks with its heart, risking for love is the best risk there is. And even if your heart ends up broken, you will always have the experience of living in a new city and trying new things. Bear in mind that you are not only there for the sake of the relationship but also yourself. So explore all the opportunities and benefits that can emerge from this experience.

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Will Relocating for Love Solve Our Problems?

The simple answer to this question is no. This is a common mistake people usually make. They think having kids or getting married, or moving across the country for love, will solve their problems, but it will not. Difficulties, if anything, will emerge even more. So if you have a problem in a relationship, you need to sort everything out before any significant step especially beginning a new life in unknown state. Check this video for some more detail.

How Do I Ask My Partner to Move In?

Popping this question out of the blue can be quite a disaster and shock if you are not in that stage of your relationship. Before asking, please talk with your partner to see his views on your future together – how he feels about living together, and more. When you get a clear picture of this, you can stop going around the bush and ask the question. Maybe a dinner at a fancy restaurant can be a nice touch.

Moving to Another State for a Relationship – How to Ask This Question?

Asking someone to move their entire life to a new state is a tricky business. You got an offer for an exciting job in a new city, but don’t know how to break the news to your loved one? You will have to sit down and make a list of the pros and cons of moving for a relationship. Is this opportunity something that happens once in a lifetime or not? What about your partner’s job and career? Can he easily find a job in the new state or not? Are you two ready, emotionally, financially, and personally, to take this step? These can be challenging questions, but anything is possible if you communicate everything and are prepared to compromise.

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Communication, compromise and respect are pillars of a good and lasting relationship

How Far Into a Relationship Should You Move in Together?

Well, obviously, the answer is when you both feel ready. The joke on the side, moving in together, depends on a couple of things. Are you planning to buy a home together or rent an apartment? Are you moving to your or your partner’s apartment? Are you both on the same page about the future? Do you both have a steady income? These are all questions you need to talk about with your partner to see if there are any disagreements in your living together. For instance, buying a house together is a big commitment, so you are probably thinking about getting married and having a family, but maybe your partner is not. Talking about this issue is essential, especially if you move to another state and plan to live together.

Should I Consider a Long-Distance Relationship?

If your relationship is at the beginning or you are not sure if you are ready to move cross country, try a long-distance relationship. Don’t worry about maintaining it – a long-distance connection is not that difficult as it seems. In fact, a lot of couples in the USA are doing this. You can visit your sweetheart on weekends and holidays. This way, you will have time to feel the pulse of the new city and to see if living there is for you.

Do you have a smartphone? Of course, you do. With your phone, the whole world and your loved one are one click away. It will be useful to set a time frame for this trial period, and then, if you decide to move, make all the arrangements necessary for a cross-country move. Moving for love after a long-distance relationship is a risk that many that Americans decide to take. Some relationships work out, but some don’t. Because of that, it’s important to consider other reasons for your move. In fact, just answer this question – Am I moving for a relationship or for me?

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If you are committed to your relationship, no distance can stand in your way

Is My Independence at Stake Because of Love?

New state, city, and people. You are probably asking yourself “Will I manage?” and “Is it worth moving for love?” All of this can be scary and overwhelming. If you are moving because your partner got a new job, you should try to get a job before moving, this way you will see if there are employment opportunities for you in this city, and not to get disappointed later when you move. Maybe this is a good opportunity to find your dream job. If you wish this relationship to work, it will be vital for you to have your own life, not to depend on your partner financially or emotionally. Finding a job is crucial for your independence.

Make New Friendships or Find Old One

Try to make some new friends. You can do this by finding a new hobby. This way, when your partner is at work and “having all the fun,” you will not resent him for being alone at home because you will have a fulfilling day. For instance, moving with pets is always a plus to any relocation. Walking your pet is an excellent way to get to know the city and meet new people. You can also search social media to see if some of your old friends, from college or from an old job, maybe live in this city. Reach out to them and try to reconnect.

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You already have your best friend, but don't worry, new ones will come too

If You Are Moving for Love Then Prepare in the Best Way Possible

If you decided to relocate for love, then great, now it is time to start preparing for moving. The first thing you need to do is find cross-country movers and make all arrangements with them. Creating a household inventory list when moving cross country is a priority job you need to do before packing. Then you need to pack your clothes and your moving essentials as well. There are some tips and tricks on packing fragile items, or simply hire a cross-country moving company that offers packing services.

If you want to do all this by yourself, it will be wise to create your moving binder. Long-distance moving is a kick on your fund, we know that, but making a smart moving budget will help you escape all unnecessary expenditure. This way, you can even save so many for a rainy day. If you and your partner are ready to move in together, you are probably prepared to do that anywhere. On the other hand, if this is not the case or you don’t feel ready to take this step, don’t do it. There are other options you can explore before taking this giant leap.

Daisy Wilson

Daisy was born in Salt Lake City and in her free time, she writes about moving and watches Charmed.

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